Are You Asking For Testimonials?

It is important to ask for testimonials to capture tangible  results and for yourself and your marketing.  Cathy gave me some great verbal feedback at the end of our 6-month coaching experience.  I asked her if she would put it in writing to share with others. Unless you ask, you may never know what effect your work or product has for people.  I just expected a line or two but appreciatively received the following:

One of the most intelligent financial investments
“I have been working with Cora for about 6 months, and I have to say it is without a doubt one of the most intelligent financial investments I have ever made.

I am an experienced coach and fully understand how many layers can be blocking us from doing the things we desire to accomplish and experience, yet I have still been quite amazed at all the issues that were in my way of taking my career and life where I want it to go.

Wow! The GREAT news is that every time I have worked with Cora, when we complete a session it feels like a HUGE relief to be free of previous constraints.

Cora has done an outstanding job of assisting me to untangle myself from webs of mental and emotional material. When I first started working with Cora, I was aware that I was projecting my mother onto her. I also felt like I could tell Cora and I am so glad I did because she was fine with it. She helped me to move through the ‘mom’ issues. That happened during the first three sessions and has never come up again. I can present anything to Cora and she is able to work effectively with me free of personal judgments or predisposed opinions. This has given me the safety and freedom to be genuine with her, and together we have moved me through soooo much that I am now free of.

My bottom line results are that I have finally started doing some of the things I so desperately desired to do and recognized that I was qualified and perfectly capable of doing, BUT I had been so stuck and disempowered by my ‘stuff’.

I am now opening up to my NATURAL ability to do these things.

It has been fun and inspiring, and feedback has been awesome!

I have recently completed my initial 6-month package with Cora, and I am going to continue working with her. Why? Because my results have been outstanding, and better yet I recognize I am barely opening to all that is possible for me. I want to keep right on going in behalf of my self and everyone!

ALL great coaches and leaders, have their own personal coaches. If you want to step into more of your own personal power and leadership qualities, Cora can definitely be an invaluable asset and partner with and for you upon your journey.

Abundant blessings to all who wish to discover what is possible.”

Cathy Cole, Transformation Coach at Innate Insight, Fort Collins, CO

www.innateinsight.com

Be sure to ask for testimonials.

Cora Whittington

Feeling Good About Who You Are

No-one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Eleanor Roosevelt

If you are like me, you first heard this quote many years ago. Also, if you are like me, you knew that there was truth to it and still felt inferior.

To have self-worth is to have moved beyond the belief that valuing ourselves is egotistical. It is recognition that we are unique and loveable, just as we are. Only when we have come to this point can we really begin to be our true selves in the world or take full part in relationships.

As a tween, I remember very clearly brushing my little sister’s long beautiful hair and telling her how beautiful she was. My mother very quickly admonished me: “Don’t tell her that, it will go to her head”.  And so it was reinforced.  The message was subtle. A lifetime of not valuing me began. I didn’t realize it until midlife; I had considered being less than to be a virtue.

The ironic thing is an awareness that Eckhart Tolle made very clear in his book “A New Earth”.  To paraphrase ~ when we feel superior or inferior we are being egotistical.  The very thing that I was taught was from the ego.  Words cannot say how freeing it was to learn that valuing and loving myself just as I am is truly free of ego.

It may help to look back at your childhood and question where you received the message that you were not good enough – perhaps not loveable.  And then consider if you want to go on believing that.  As long as you believe it and continue to put yourself down, others will, too.  Law of Attraction and your life experience will provide endless ways to prove you right!

In choosing to look at your self-worth today, you are being asked to look at the wounded child within, who didn’t receive the love he or she needed and is still looking to be validated from outside. You must find the wounded part and hold this child in love.  Feel for yourself.  Be kind to yourself. Parent yourself as you would have wanted to be parented then.

If you try to manipulate the people around you into giving the reassurance or security you feel you lacked, you will ultimately be disappointed.  Your partner, boss or colleague can never give what you don’t have within.

Begin to see how power and control are played out in your life.  The fact is that your victim role is based on the belief that you can’t get power any other way.  But in seeking to please and appease, you are just as guilty of trying to control the people around you – into staying around and being nice to you – as someone who is obviously dominating.

On the other hand, you may be concealing your innate sense of worthlessness behind a facade of superiority.  Rather than valuing yourself, you are measuring your worth by your roles and your material success, or lack of it.  You may have convinced many, including yourself, that this is who you are.

Measuring yourself by where you live, who you know and what you do could be leading yourself from the truth.  Your real worth is in the essence of who you are.

The paradox is that as long as you go on believing that the trappings of your life make you special, you will never feel special and loved for yourself.

It is interesting to notice that at the core of feeling inferior or superior – is low self-worth.

This is one of the Core Dynamics of Common Problems – Looking for Yourself Where You Are Not. To receive a free report that describes how this dynamic and others keep you from being who you really are go to www.goldenpathways.ca  or www.trulyconfidentleader.com

It really is time to stop trying to prove yourself and imagining that others are better than you. Or that you are better than them.  You are infinitely precious and truly amazing in your uniqueness.  The moment you connect with that, your life will begin to change.

If this article resonated with you, request a free session to learn more about how to reconnect with the essence of who you really are. 

What Happens During a WaveMaker Session?

In general, a WaveMaker™ Coaching session goes like this:

I start by asking a question like, “What area of your life would you like to have different?” or “What issue would you like to work on?”

We then determine whether the issue you’ve identified is the most important one for that day. To do this, we use muscle checking, a process whereby we access the innate wisdom of your body. (For a compelling explanation of this process, check out the book Power versus Force by renowned lecturer and physician, Dr. David R. Hawkins.)

Once the optimal issue has been clearly identified, we phrase an intention statement. An intention statement is a sentence that perfectly expresses how your life would be if the issue concerning you was completely resolved. (For example, if the issue you want to work on is your fear of public speaking, your intention statement might be, “I feel completely relaxed and comfortable in front of groups of all sizes”).

After clarifying your intention statement, we use muscle checking to determine whether we need to know what barriers in you are preventing you from having the experience that you want (i.e. what’s preventing you from feeling relaxed in front of groups). The more accurately we can determine ‘what’s really going on’ within you, the deeper and more profound a result you may have. (This is where the skill and training of the WaveMaker™ Coach matters a lot). Most commonly, what’s at the root of the problem is something related to what WaveMaker™ inventor, Tom Stone, has labeled “The 12 Core Dynamics of Common Problems”. (Scroll down for a short description.)

Next, you pick up the two brass handles of the WaveMaker™ with the machine turned on.
NOTE: The WaveMaker™ technology is not recommended for people with autoimmune disorders, those with implanted electronic devices like a heart pacemaker, or for pregnant women.

After holding the handles for a short time, we check that the issue has been thoroughly resolved (again through muscle checking). Some people feel no sensation as they use the WaveMaker™, while others experience a feeling of peacefulness or ‘resolution’ of the situation.

Finally, we will have a short discussion about what you might expect will be different as a result of the session and whether there are specific things you can do to help yourself ‘live into’ the change more easily. I will also recommend that you drink 2 liters of purified water per day for the next few days to assist your body in washing out any physical ‘residue’ that may have been released as a result of the shift in your energy field. You may also notice yourself feeling either extra-tired or extra-energized over the next few days.

The 12 Core Dynamics of Common Problems: a quick introduction to what may be causing you trouble.

If you were to spend an hour with a toddler, you would see that we, as humans, are innately designed to live completely in the present moment, trust and act on our intuition, live free of judgment, feel every emotion fully, unconditionally love, and experience ourselves as beings with limitless potential. As most of us grow, however, we encounter people and situations that gradually stop us from acting in these ways, and which create problems in our lives. The 12 Core Dynamics that evolve within us over time and cause most of our problems (and which the WaveMaker™ can eliminate) are

(The inner circles in this diagram represent the three central dynamics. The outer circles contain three commonly reoccurring patterns that stem from each three central dynamic.)

1) Resisting feeling things fully
This dynamic is based on experiences of having been overwhelmed by intense feelings when we were very young. To avoid the experience of overwhelm, we make the inner decision to resist feeling things fully. This dynamic is based on the illusion that if you feel fully, you won’t be able to handle it.
When this dynamic is absent, what you experience is, “I feel anything and everything without the fear of being overwhelmed.”

2) Ignoring your intuition
This dynamic comes from having been punished as a child for acting on your inner knowing/intuition. It is based on the illusion that if you act on your intuition, you will be overwhelmed by the consequences.
When this dynamic is absent, what you feel is, “I completely trust my intuition and I always act on it.”

3) Being judgmental
When we judge something (or someone) it’s to create a feeling of us being separate from it – “I’m not like that!” In reality, the things we judge reflect a part of ourselves that we don’t want to acknowledge. (When there is no ‘charge’ in us about something, we feel neutral about it.) This dynamic is based on the habit of avoiding issues that we really need to address and resolve within ourselves.
When this dynamic is absent, what you feel is, “Everything I experience is a part of me. I acknowledge it, embrace it and value it.”

4) Avoiding the present
When this dynamic is operating in us, we get absorbed in the stories we’ve invented about past events or we start anticipating possible negative outcomes in the future. This dynamic is based on the habit of avoiding being present and the fear that being present will be difficult. Many addictions that people experience are the result of having a number of unresolved emotions about the past that feel too intense to deal with in the present.
When this dynamic is absent, what you feel is, “I live completely in the present moment.”

5) Looking for yourself where you are not
When this dynamic is operating, we try to get a sense of ourselves from situations outside of ourselves. We may, for example, define ourselves by our actions, accomplishments or possessions. This dynamic is based on the illusion that we are incomplete and need something from outside ourselves to be whole.
When this dynamic is absent, what you feel is, “I am whole and complete.”

6) Mistaking need for love
When this dynamic is operating, we confuse love – which is unconditional and requires nothing in return – with the need to receive something from someone else. (Love lets go; need holds on.) This dynamic is based on the illusion that love is something that you get from outside yourself. Our culture constantly confuses love as need in our movies, songs and media.
When this dynamic is absent, what you feel is, “I love without needing anything in return and I participate in relationships of mutual giving.”

7) Resisting change
When this dynamic is present in us, we find ourselves looking for events around us to stay the same so that we can feel secure. It is based on the illusion that stability and security can be found in the changing world around us, rather than within us.
When this dynamic is absent, what you feel is, “I live in the delight and wonder of uncertainty.”

Limiting self-expression
Because of this dynamic, we hold ourselves back out of the fear of losing the approval of others. When we express ourselves powerfully, some people don’t like it because it makes them feel uncomfortable that they, themselves, are holding back. This dynamic is based on the illusion that if we powerfully express ourselves, we will be alone
When this dynamic is absent, what you feel is, “I can be fully self-expressed without fearing loss of love from others.”

9) Trying to force an outcome
When this dynamic is operating in us, we feel compelled to ‘make things happen’ in a particular way and in a particular time frame. This dynamic is based on the illusion that we alone are responsible for what occurs in our lives, rather than a connected part of all of life.
When this dynamic is absent, what you feel is, “I get the sense of myself from the essential nature of who I truly am rather than from my actions or accomplishments.”

10) Excluding other perspectives
When this dynamic is present, we over-identify with our minds and think we have, and need to have, all the answers. This dynamic comes from not recognizing the difference between thinking with our mind and ‘knowing’ from our deepest level or soul.
When this dynamic is absent, what you feel is, “I know things from deep within myself and I know the difference between thinking and knowing.”

11) Manufacturing interpretations
When this dynamic is operating, we get overly absorbed in trying to explain or interpret events. It is based on the illusion that everything is not perfect as it is.
When this dynamic is absent, what you feel is,“I sense the perfection in everything even when my intellect doesn’t get it.”

12) Over-reacting to circumstances
When this dynamic is present, we become overly disturbed or distressed by what happens to ourselves or others. This dynamic interferes with our ability to maintain a strong sense of who we are under extreme circumstances.
When this dynamic is absent, what you feel is,“I feel a deep sense of equanimity (balance, calm) during experiences of pleasure or pain.”

Cora is a professional, certified WaveMaker™ Coach. She is also certified as a 12 Core Dynamic Seminar Teacher and a Vaporize Your Anxiety Coach.

Tom Stone is the founder of this work. To learn more, please enjoy his web site at: www.greatlifetechnologies.com.

 

What Is Special about a WaveMaker Coach?

The bioresonance work I do as a WaveMaker™ Coach is life changing. The focus here is about removing unwanted energy patterns stored in our body as unwanted habits, beliefs and conditioning that keep us trapped in a ‘not- self’ theme, preventing us from living our lives from our ‘true-self’ or from a place of wholeness.

The ego mind is always evaluating and filtering what is going on around us and to us. The ego mind holds the history of who we were and what we experienced and then sees all present and future events through the filter of that history. We continue to breathe life into our ego mind in the form of emotional addictions.

Egoic or mental conditioning can show up in many ways in our lives such as wanting approval from others, not being completely self-sufficient, over-reacting to circumstances, judging others and self, just to name a few. Conditioning can also show up in the many addictions available to escape to in order to numb ourselves from feeling painful emotions. These destructive habits take the form of energy patterns that we carry in our body.

I grew up with my share of conditioning that kept me trapped in a ‘not-self’ theme. I knew my fears and stuck places well. Not giving up the search for something that would permanently free me from unwanted conditioning, I came across bioresonance technology using what is called the WaveMaker™ where I noticed efficient and permanent change in my life for the first time.

For the past 20 years, I have been involved in consciousness studies and training, working with projects and practices focused on psychological, spiritual and professional development as well as organizational and leadership development. I have worked in many modalities and with clients allowing me to see by contrast what works and what doesn’t, and what is most effective and efficient in observing personal and client transformation.

I have found that the WaveMaker™ technology tool I use produces efficient and permanent outcomes unlike any other. It is in a class of its own. Just as we have moved from candles to electricity, so we are with the opportunity at this point in history to move out of our conditioned ‘not self’ theme and into our wholeness in an efficient and permanent way.

My purpose for being here is to assist in the transformation of lives, to bring you to a place of knowing who you really are, so that you can come out of the grip of conditioning and into the magic of Life; your life, your path, your purpose and destiny. We live in an exciting time of change and transformation.

Are You a Dream Team Coach?

Whether you are an avid Super Bowl Fan or not – we can all learn from an all star coach.

 

Too often, we expect specific results from our team and then get disappointed.

 

Let’s examine how a Dream Team Coach operates.

 

Every good coach works with a game plan.  It is not only an individual plan but a team plan and a long term plan.  And the coach reminds people of the game plan.

 

The coach:

1. Tells the player what is expected of them – how they fit into the game plan and what they should try to do.

 

2. Gives them opportunity to perform – in other words – Give them room to be good.

 

3. Lets them know how they are getting along – this gives them the opportunity to learn, improve and increase their contribution.

 

4. Instruct them when they need it – this gives them the means to learn, improve and increase their contribution.

 

5. Reward them.  This gives incentive for their effort.

 

A Dream Team Coach Takes the Time to Huddle 

When a team huddles, it recalls the game plan and how it is to be implemented.  It is an opportunity to listen, possibly make personnel changes, make play changes and to rest. When there is no huddle there is confusion and less than optimal performance.

 

Every dream team needs to huddle

 

Creating a dream team is a process.  Enjoy every step, and apply the principles of a dream team coach.