Is It Possible to Be Free of Blame?

Everyday– I am stopped in my tracks and stand in awe of what we humans can achieve when we refuse to wallow in our “crappy” life, situation or circumstances.

Let me tell you about someone that has blown me away with her grit and determination.

Homeless to Harvard

Her name is Liz Murray.  Her life is a triumph over adversity and an example of dreaming big. Liz Murray grew up in the Bronx with cocaine-addicted parents.  Liz’s mother died when she was 16 leaving her homeless – living on the streets, riding the subway all night and eating from dumpsters.

Determined to take charge of her life, Liz finished high school in two years while living on the street in New York City.  She then went on to complete her degree at Harvard.  Her website is http://www.homelesstoharvard.com

Despite being in the most difficult of circumstances where her parents spent their welfare cheque on drugs – while she and her sister had no food – Liz Murray has no blame – no anger – no resentment.  She says simply “People can’t give you what they don’t have” For me the core message of her talk was this:  “My life is my own responsibility and there are gifts in where we come from”

She talks about speaking to a group of psychologists who couldn’t accept that she could be free of blame and resentment.  I find it interesting that in the core of our helping profession and that we assume that you have to live in the consequences of our “crappy” life.

To be truly free to be, do and have the life of your dreams requires us to be free of blame.

Here are some more nuggets from Liz Murray:

·         You know in your heart whether you are living from resentment or gratitude

·         Keep knocking until someone says “Yes”

·         There is an empowering choice or a disempowering choice

·         “Life is tough” is an excuse

·         The disempowered conversation blames the past

·         The empowered conversation simply says – “what is next? – I still have a choice”

As a Core Dynamics Coach, I work every day with people with some area of their lives where they want to have a massive breakthrough, a shift, a new opening, and a reinvention of a new future. What continually blows my mind is that they get it! They get it by claiming parts of themselves, cleaning up all areas of their life, transforming blame and taking responsibility

This month, consider one of two options. 

Express Yourself With Confidence

Too many of us have had past experiences that have shaken our confidence.  It may have been that devastating public speaking experience in grade 7, or being criticized for our stupid idea or a host of other encounters that shut down our voice. 

In this workshop series we will dismantle all that holds us back and become free to speak from who we really are.  For more information and details go to http://www.goldenpathways.ca/events.asp

Or consider a…

“Rescue Your Life” Coaching Session

Some of you would prefer to work one on one.  Call or email me to receive a complementary “Rescue Your Life” session and determine how you can transform your life.

keep in mind – What empowers a life? – one empowered choice after another.

Call Cora Whittington 705-745-4005 or email cw@goldenpathways.ca