Are You Trying Too Hard?

During these last two days,  I had the privilege of working with Donna Messer and 12 amazing business women.  The purpose of the days was to become clear about our next phase or a new business idea and share networks and resources.  Donna is a walking encyclopaedia of resources.  Even though our heads hurt with the volume of information and action items it was a good experience.  This morning, one of the participants sent this note: “Awesome day… Slept like a baby, first time in months”.

For me, I have decided to create an on-line program and wanted a really cool name.  I have been noodling possibilities for a month or more and nothing gave me the goose bump results that I have been looking for.  I came up with lots for other people but couldn’t come up with my own.  I was getting frustrated and yet knew it would come. Donna said to me “You are trying too hard”.

That evening at dinner, it popped out of the conversation.  I am not going to tell you what it is until we officially launch it and I get the name registered etc.  The important key is that when I stopped trying to make it happen – it could come. 

The next morning two interest things happened.  I have a Nordic pole walking partner and we walk at 7 in the morning.  She wasn’t feeling well and cancelled the evening before. Normally this would be my excuse to sleep in.  But this time, I knew that I needed to get up and walk by myself.  I walked to the river and watched the mist, the enchanting sunrise and went into a Pure Awareness state as is my habit.  My daughter had put a number of high energy songs on my iPod and just at this time, while in the Pure Awareness state, Michael Jackson’s song “Children of the World” started playing.  It was magical.

Part of my process has been asking the question: What is the essence of what I do and how can I explain it? I got shivers and cried as Michael sang

Make the world a better place for you and for me

There is a love that cannot die

Stop existing and start living

Make a better world

I got it! The essence of my work is helping people stop existing and start living and then make the world a better place for themselves. It is only when they have made the world a better place for themselves that  they can make it a better place for others.  And each person has the power to do that but it is an inside job. So many of us, including Michael think that it is something outside of us that will make my world a better place – it’s not – it is an inside job!

I also got that if Michael had Core Dynamics Coaching – he wouldn’t have needed all the ways of numbing his pain or power.  WE are all one – Michael is just reflecting back to us how we are doing the same.  He did it in a big and dramatic way.  We are doing it in our own way, but I know in my heart of hearts that it doesn’t have to be that way for anyone. We all have the power to make our experience of our world meaningful and fulfilling. Some of us are carrying some beliefs, baggage and stories that this is not possible for them.  I don’t buy it.

After the Michael experience – which was odd on the day of the release of his movie, the first person that arrived walked in the door said “Cora … the title of my new workshop”.  (I know, I am watching too many dance reality shows but you will have to wait for the launch J) I was getting the confirmation that I needed.

This whole experience reminded me of something that Esther Hicks teaches.  She says that the energy of our questions and the energy of the answers are entirely different.  We ask our question from a place of lack or neediness.  We don’t get our answers when we are in this state. 

The answers come when we are receptive, open and calm and often when we are not looking for them. Stop trying so hard. It is important to ask our questions and change our state to receive our answers.  Because when we get our answers from knowing … nothing can stop us.

Thanks Universe for the reminder.

Cora Whittington

A virus you should want to catch…

If you’ve been thinking you should start blogging,
or get started with a blog, listen up…

This guy Robert Grant and his colleague
Ian David Chapman, have figured out a way to use Facebook
as the ultimate marketing machine. And it’s
so effective it’s mind-boggling…

[Mind Boggling Effectiveness]
http://www.crowdconversion.com/social-media-blueprint/?10784

It’s crazy how well this works, especially if
you’ve been forking over hundreds or thousands
to the paid search monsters—or even worse,
not doing anything at all because you
can’t afford it.

Besides how fast and reliably this works, the most awesome
thing about it is—it doesn’t COST anything to do!

Zero. Nada. Zip. As in, anybody can do this…

[No-Cost Method Of Massive Traffic Generation]
http://www.crowdconversion.com/social-media-blueprint/?10784

For example, these two geniuses put their strategies
into motion for a very well-known marketer by
the name of Alex Mandossian.

If you’re familiar at all with Alex, you know he
has been extremely successful online—I mean the
guy knows a thing or two right?

But even he was speechless when
Robert and Ian’s strategies pulled in over 1,000
opt-ins in just 24-hours.

PLUS, the conversions from this method were much
higher than a traditional web page.

The thing is, these tactics are like a blog on steroids
when it comes to traffic generation—and as it
works it goes viral for even MORE great results.

Plus you can easily take the next step to turn
those opt-ins into money. Heck, you can make
a ton of cash from this, even if you don’t have
a product yet!

I really can’t do this justice trying to explain it.
You need to hear from Robert himself right here…

[Robert Tells You How To Do It]
http://www.crowdconversion.com/social-media-blueprint/?10784

If I were you, I’d pay very close attention to this.
Your competition will. And you don’t want to
be left behind—this is changing the face of
marketing in a very major way.

Talk to you again soon,

Cora

P.S. I’m already doing this myself, and I’m getting everything in place

and this is going to be fun! Check it out…

Ebs and Flows Are Normal

Have you lost momentum or enthusiasm?

Is everything an effort or a struggle?

Are you not clear about what to do next?

Don’t worry, this is normal…  Uncomfortable but normal…

When this happens we have two choices

1) Wallow in it L or

2) Be curious about what is coming next J

For me this happens when I am on the edge of something new and big.  Even though it doesn’t feel like something positive.  It is usually a time when self doubts and possibly some outside criticism shows up.  I try out some new ideas and they don’t resonate with me or others.  It is a time of discouragement and frustration.

How could this possibly be a good thing?  When we experience what we don’t want helps us become clearer about what we do want.  Curiosity about what is coming allows us to see what is possible.  You have all experienced someone telling you about purchasing a particular new car and colour and then all of a sudden you see that exact car and colour everywhere.  These cars didn’t show up just for you, they were always there but they weren’t in your view until you gave it some attention.  You can only see what you are looking for.  So you might just as well be looking for the next cool thing in your life or business versus what is going wrong.

The question is “What to do while you are in the stuck phase?”

Here are some suggestions:

1.       Clarify your intentions – Get your journal out and write what you want different in your business or life (remember state them in the present, what you want, as if it has already happened)

2.       Clear some space – cleaning up some junk will make room for the new to come in

3.       Learn something new – learning is inspiring – so read a book, watch an inspiring movie, take a workshop or  a teleseminar

4.       Feel your feelings – use the Pure Awareness techniques and change your vibration

5.       Talk to your coach – this is a way to accelerate your ability to clarify your intentions and clear your limiting beliefs

Confession

Even though I am the person who helps people move through the stuck phase, this stuckness occasionally happens to me.  So I have very selfishly invited Donna Messer to spend a day with me to focus and work through a business idea.    I know the power of a small committed group and a skilled facilitator so this time we will be working in a small group.  I will be a participant and Donna Messer www.connectuscanada.com will be the guide.  She recently was nominated as one of the most influential people in Canada and has some interesting techniques to strategize and jumpstart your business and your life.

I sent out an invitation to a small group and quickly signed up enthusiastic participants.  So I invited Donna to stay for a second day.  There is room for four more people.  If you would like to be part of this, you can get the details and register at www.goldenpathways.ca/events.asp

Remember this “low phase” is screening an opportunity ~ make the best of it!

Wishing you a wonder filled day,

Cora

PS: The second date is Tuesday Oct 27 but if the 26^th works better for you – we may be able to do a bit of shuffling – just sent me a note with your request.