What You Focus On Expands

Recently I listened to an Abraham CD that suggested a very provocative exercise.  They suggested that you think of two people – one you like and one that you don’t.

Then for the person you like – find several aspects that you don’t like and then for the person you don’t like – find several aspects that you do like.

Abraham suggests that as you continue to do this it won’t be long before you will change how you feel about each person.

You will start to dislike the person you liked. And you will start to like the person you disliked.

Tonight, I listened to Alex Mandossian’s business webinar and he suggested that we focus on Strengthening Strengths. He gave a powerful example which we can translate to all aspects of our career or business.

He said that when he goes to a teacher interview for his children, he asks “What are my child’s strengths?” and talks about these things for 20 minutes. The other things are talked about later.

He said that over the years he has noticed that the teachers then start focusing on the child’s strengths and the child feels so much better about themselves and doing better in school.

I have been teaching this concept for years – I have called it “What You Focus On Expands” - you can click on the following link and see my version of a shift in focus that can change your interpersonal relationships in your family and at work!

What You Focus On Expands Video

Love to hear what you think!

With warmest wishes,

Cora

PS: I only recommend that you only use the part of Abraham’s exercise that finds positive aspects of people

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“F” Stands for…

“F” is an interesting letter.  It is interesting how the poor letter has unintentionally become a symbol of so many things. Not all of them are positive.

While there are several possible articles on the letter “F” – let’s look at “Failure”.  For many of us, an “F” was not a good thing to receive in school, in work or in life.  We all have many examples where people in authority have pointed out our flaws and mistakes.  Just reading about this is probably bringing up some feelings and memories.

My biggest freedom in my life was when I shifted from “F” stands for Failure to “F” standing for Feedback.

Now when someone gives me “Feedback” even if it is rife with judgment or criticism I started looking for the nugget of truth, accept my responsibility for the nugget and automatically become more intentional of what I want. I ignore their delivery or their part in it.  I am not always successful right away but eventually when I shift to this approach, magical things happen.

But to be honest, I don’t get much of that old style criticism anymore.  What I do get is loving, sincere information that helps me get better.

Last week, I put out a video with a very powerful message but a poor delivery.  Part of me knew that and part of me just wanted to play with what would come up if I did something less than perfect.  There is so much that I haven’t done because I wanted it to be perfect. I tried to cover up myself with music and flying in letters.  And it didn’t work.

7  beautiful people sent me e-mails with lists of  suggestions for how I could do it better. And I sooooo appreciate that.  It is interesting to observe my internal response.  There was part of me that wanted to beat myself up for putting something out that was mediocre. Some old stuff was still there.  And there was part of me that was truly OK with it.  And there is a part of me that can’t wait to try some new ideas.

On the day that I did the first video, I created a second one.  It was my second go so I was definitely more animated and present.  I am still working on my recording and technical jitters and playing with different ways of presenting. I did however create it without the distracting music and fonts. (Thanks friends )

Should I have posted the mediocre video – maybe not or maybe… it was the perfect thing to do.  Sometimes our “screw-ups” are perfect.  I have seen so many times in my life and clients when that less than perfect situation became perfect.  My coaching teachers Wendy Down, Michael Stratford, and Tom Stone taught me something very important. They told me that it was not up to me to judge whether something was right or wrong, good or bad, perfect or imperfect.

Sometimes it is the imperfections that teach us the most.

This video is going to be released in tomorrow’s blog – but you can watch it today if you are inspired! (see below)

Remember to register for the productivity upgrade teleseminar series where we will learn much more about all of this.

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Wishing you a wondrous life,

Cora

WE Never Get It Done

We all wish that something could be different or better in our lives. We can even – sometimes – imagine it in our mind’s eye.

But then something doesn’t go the way we had hoped and we hit the terror barrier and go scurrying back to our comfort zone.

Watch this video and understand why this is a normal experience. Actually, the big win is when we accept this phase as part of the process and move through it rather than back to our limited world.

This is a snippit of what you will learn in our 4 session teleseminar series

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Are You Stuck in the Stone Age?

Does your advertising and marketing work?

Or are you stuck in the Stone Age with old methods that are expensive, unreliable and even worse untrackable?

What this means is that you don’t know where all that money you are spending is going and whether it is working at all.

In the old days you could put up a website and maybe people will come. Build it and they will come!

Not anymore.  If you have a website you may have noticed that no one is showing up.

It doesn’t matter if you have a business or a website if no one can find you.

Right now there is a social marketing revolution going and it has become possible for you to put your products, services and websites in front of millions of targeted clients.

Welcome to the future!

Learn how to get more customers and profits by using social marketing tools.

I have been using Facebook, LinkedIn, Blogs, List Building and more to get f r e e publicity. It is awesome to go my Inbox and respond to a request for business. There are many simple and f r e e tools available with the click of a few buttons.

And you can reach targeted clients around the world 24 hours a day 7 days a week!

Learn how to get more customers and profits by specializing your product or service and using social marketing tools.

I have been coaching entrepreneurs one-on-one build their business and decided to run this program for a select group of serious entrepreneurs.  Are you being called to this next stage of your business expansion?

For more details about this unique approach and exciting business results go to:

www.onlinepresencemadeeasy.com

Wishing you your best year ever!

Cora Whittington

705-745-4006

Are You Asking For Testimonials?

It is important to ask for testimonials to capture tangible  results and for yourself and your marketing.  Cathy gave me some great verbal feedback at the end of our 6-month coaching experience.  I asked her if she would put it in writing to share with others. Unless you ask, you may never know what effect your work or product has for people.  I just expected a line or two but appreciatively received the following:

One of the most intelligent financial investments
“I have been working with Cora for about 6 months, and I have to say it is without a doubt one of the most intelligent financial investments I have ever made.

I am an experienced coach and fully understand how many layers can be blocking us from doing the things we desire to accomplish and experience, yet I have still been quite amazed at all the issues that were in my way of taking my career and life where I want it to go.

Wow! The GREAT news is that every time I have worked with Cora, when we complete a session it feels like a HUGE relief to be free of previous constraints.

Cora has done an outstanding job of assisting me to untangle myself from webs of mental and emotional material. When I first started working with Cora, I was aware that I was projecting my mother onto her. I also felt like I could tell Cora and I am so glad I did because she was fine with it. She helped me to move through the ‘mom’ issues. That happened during the first three sessions and has never come up again. I can present anything to Cora and she is able to work effectively with me free of personal judgments or predisposed opinions. This has given me the safety and freedom to be genuine with her, and together we have moved me through soooo much that I am now free of.

My bottom line results are that I have finally started doing some of the things I so desperately desired to do and recognized that I was qualified and perfectly capable of doing, BUT I had been so stuck and disempowered by my ‘stuff’.

I am now opening up to my NATURAL ability to do these things.

It has been fun and inspiring, and feedback has been awesome!

I have recently completed my initial 6-month package with Cora, and I am going to continue working with her. Why? Because my results have been outstanding, and better yet I recognize I am barely opening to all that is possible for me. I want to keep right on going in behalf of my self and everyone!

ALL great coaches and leaders, have their own personal coaches. If you want to step into more of your own personal power and leadership qualities, Cora can definitely be an invaluable asset and partner with and for you upon your journey.

Abundant blessings to all who wish to discover what is possible.”

Cathy Cole, Transformation Coach at Innate Insight, Fort Collins, CO

www.innateinsight.com

Be sure to ask for testimonials.

Cora Whittington